Parents and Children: From Conflict to Connection

This topic might be very relatable and might be occurring in many houses.

Individually, as a parent or child, both need to understand and decide on a common base, whether they are both opposite to each other or together in any situation or condition in front of them.

During the babyhood, the parents will be around or giving most attention to their kids in growing them or pampering them at every moment, giving unconditional love or constant attention.

After a while, when the child grows, they become a bit hesitant and get freed from constant attention, and are left on their own in a few cases.

Not because the parents love them less, or it might not be purposeful, but the parents themselves might be going through a lot in terms of family pressure, or career-related, or financially wise, or it could be any other reason.

Likewise, the child also must be going through a lot, for example, exam pressure, comparison, inferiority, friend circle, etc. 

It could be anything or any reason that they may silently carry with themselves.

There should be a middle way to it as a solution, and it needs to be found and implemented for a better result for all. 

Firstly, parents and children should both try to understand what has been bothering them, then try to acknowledge it in their individual minds. 

Then try to describe it and share with each other in detail, trying to avoid reacting to it from either side, but time should be taken to process it. 

That way, one will get to understand each other even more, rather than assuming or guessing things for each other, importantly will help in avoiding misjudging each other.

There may be situations in which parents might have lived life more through similar cases and know the worldly aspect much more. But in today's changing technology world, the children who might be facing the situation or condition could be different for only 1%. However, even that small percentage change could bring way totally different outcome. 

Similarly, whatever the child is going through, they need to understand that their parents might have faced a similar situation but differently, so at least getting to know or discuss the situation calmly and getting the feedback to solve it may or may not help, but still, it could bring a comparatively good outcome.

Usually, what I have seen or observed is that children and parents both love or care, or respect each other, but their way of showing or displaying would be way different based on their surroundings or traditions.

That needs to be understood and discussed, and taken forward in harmony.

It goes both ways, like for example, the children are living their life for the first time and experiencing many different emotions for the first time.

The same thing goes for the parents as well; they are living their life for the first time, experiencing things, even though as an adult or getting older.

I hope this article brings or helps either of the parents or the child, and it could work out an easier way rather than growing disagreement or even more distance between each other.