Comparison – The Silent Companion of Our Lives

  So comparison, we may don't know but consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly, we end up making comparisons of ourself with others anywhere - be it online,  be it offline, be it with friends, be it within family or be it on social media. 

Watching other online stories or post makes us feel something again - we may be or may not be exactly aware of it. For an example we saw a story of one of our friend eating at a restaurant, we watched one of our friend is watching a new movie, our friends are travelling without us, or be it a total stranger that we met online who is having fun in their own ways. 

Thus, there will be comparison around us starting from childhood for be it grades or only the child feels about financial difference between them and other students through having different basic things like bags, water bottles, etc. 

Growing up in college also could be the same since now uniform is not there and thankfully due to uniform in childhood at least one comparison was gone. Now in college you could wear whatever you want or you could come in expensive car or bike or cycle or walking or public transport, etc. 

The list can go on. There will be comparison of mobile phone, pen, laptop, etc. Then you get onto job or business, you know the school or college friends are up to some of their own family business or some move abroad for further studies where as you join in a company where also there will be comparison in terms of position or promotion differentiation based on office dynamics. 

Again the social media is there unless you are less active that is rare these days. But in todays life every child or adult is gathered with social media or at least TV that will show one thing or other in one form or other. 

Also, entertainment movies or web series will also show something that could automatically be compared of. 

Here there is also a concept of 

    1. Try not to take everything personal through whatever works in our way and 

    2. Best try to avoid those triggering points through possible ways.

Coming back to comparison it could be anywhere anytime. Child, girl, boy, lady, gents, husband, wife, friends, family, mother, father it could be through different ways in each life but it had to be identified and figured out, later try to avoid reacting to it and make sure not to take any action based on it that would be surely wrongly taken and later could make you guilty. 

The first and foremost solution is to try to identify what ever mind has gained knowledge what exactly it is comparing and then slowly identifying, if the action taken out of it is possible for us or out of our control, thus it will help us staying grounded and stop us in any wrongdoing. 

Then try to achieve or work hard for achieving it but in a balance way that our regular life with family mainly is not affected through anyway or we do not end up hurting anyone purposely.

I believe one comparison should be done but not harshly that is with ourselves - that is where we were yesterday and where we are today, how much we have progress in terms of mentally, physically, financially, family, friendly, etc. 

Then we will realize that one day we were hoping to have some good food at a fine restaurant is we are doing right now in this moment but we may not have capture a story and put it somewhere. It is fine. 

Also, we would be comparing it with someone else having a meal at some high rated star restaurant in place of the current hotel which we are in that once we aimed for.

Yes, try to aim higher but also try to be present in the moment and try to enjoy it as much as possible because that was also once dreamt of. 

The other best example would be you have fallen sick. Then, your only goal would be to recover and become fully fit, at that time any fancy car, restaurant or nothing will not amaze you much but your focus is only on getting better. 

But once you get fit, you again start getting trapped in that loop. It is arguable but sometimes comparison drives you or motivates you to achieve something but it should not be at the cost of anything extreme, physical or mental torture like things to oneself or others. 

Again slowly and gradually we could achieve, just like a tree takes a long time to be fully grown up from a seed. Similarly, a body could be muscularly build after consistent exercises. Same goes with any building that is taking months to being built. 

Also, in it the most important thing is firstly the base should be properly made, later which many floors could be build on it but do not affect the structure. 

Likewise analyze where you stand now, where was your life before and what you could achieve it in future - again that is possible or in sight. 

You should definitely get what is best for you and what you deserve.

Be kind, be honest, be consistent and you should achieve what may not be aimed but surely what you deserve and is best for you.